Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Be kind to yourself
Interesting article in the NY Times about how being kind to yourself is an essential ingredient in well-being and also weight loss.
"I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent,” said Dr. Neff, an associate professor of human development at the University of Texas at Austin. “They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be."
Imagine your reaction to a child struggling in school or eating too much junk food. Many parents would offer support, like tutoring or making an effort to find healthful foods the child will enjoy. But when adults find themselves in a similar situation — struggling at work, or overeating and gaining weight — many fall into a cycle of self-criticism and negativity. "
Yes, beating yourself up only works for so long. Compassion, acceptance, support and tolerance are the much better option.